Mi Tio Favorito

my Favorite Uncle

When I think of you Tio Carmelo the image of your soft brown eyes that expressed kindness and love, along with your gentle smile that exuded compassion and warmth.

Tio Carmelo you are and will always be this humble gentle soul, your quiet presence was always welcomed by me.  You were one of my role models in our home that demonstrated kindness, compassion, love.

I watched you demonstrate your love to all of my eight siblings, along with all our extended family. 

Tio you were a man of few words, however I witness how you were present with everyone you came in contact with.  I watched you make eye contact with everyone you met, along with your soft smile. You demonstrated your love with your quiet reassurance.   

When every I would see you,

I’d hear, “Mira Jojo.” 

It wasn’t the two words that you uttered that were memorable,  but the love that exuded when you expressed them.

I have also witnessed the love you have expressed to your four children, whom you have raised as a single father. Watching you with your children and shower your grandchildren with love.

Deep down I wish I had you as my loving father.   

Tio Carmelo you have taught me what a true fathers love can look like.

You also were the one that helped me learn how to drive, even though I startled you at times.  When I would drive to close to the car in front of me and break really fast.  You would calmly tell me I shouldn’t drive so fast and break so suddenly.

I am grateful that you had calm disposition when I was starting to learn how to drive.  I can appreciate even more now that I have been in the passenger side when my oldest daughter was learning how to drive. 

What I am thankful for the most is you Tio trusting me to drive your car and supporting me with your calm deposition.

Tio Carmelo you are kind, generous and loving man and you will be greatly be missed.  I am so truly blessed that you were my uncle.

I have watched you with the relationship with your oldest sister, which is my mother.  It didn’t go unnoticed when you sat next to Mamí, when she lay on her hospice bed.  You sat next to her and held her hand. I watched you exchange a few words to one another. I wanted to sit next to the both of you or be a fly on the wall and listen in to your conversation.  I witnessed Love, Compassion, Kindness permeated the room and if  two souls that were very similar, it was the both of you. 

Your light will shine on for every and you will never be forgotten.

Here is a quote that I know to be one of your souls purpose on this earth.

“The light remain

There are some who bring a light so great to the world, that even after they have gone.  The light remains.”  author unknown.

Also, you are the reason I titled my book Como Coco.

When I was reading my mother’s eulogy at the church that I wrote fifteen years ago it read as follow…

I know without a doubt in my mind that you are in heaven because your purgatory was here on earth….Y ahora Mamí puedes desir ques eastas..Como Coco, and now

Mamí you can say…  Como Coco”.

I looked up after saying “Como Coco” and I locked eyes with you Tio Carmelo, and you were gently nodding your head up and down with a smile confirming exactly what she said and you know to be true.     

So, I say to you Tio Carmelo…that you are in a better place and I’m happy that you are not suffering with cancer anymore. 

I know without a drought in my mind that you are in heaven because your purgatory was here on earth.  Y ahora Tio puedes desire que estas

  “Como Coco.”

And now Tio you can say “Como Coco.”



“The light remain

There are some who bring a light so great to the world, that even after they have gone.  The light remains.”  author unknown.


Como Coco

“Como Coco.”  Two Simple words. A Puerto Rican expression for saying you’re strong and robust.  If the juice of the coconut is sweet inside that means life is sweet, because if it isn’t you woulds say Como Coco Rancio,” Which means the coconut juice is sour inside.

Joann DJ Ehlman,

Intuitive Life Coach, Intuitive Reiki Master Practitioner, Author & Speaker

Author of Como Coco -The Journey 


  Don’t rock your boat, be guided home.


Faith is when someone tries to rock your boat and if you don’t have it anchored, you can easily feel your equilibrium has been thrown off.  You will feel you’re not on stable ground. 

If your Faith is not turned onOk, let me explain,  it reminds me of the program on the Morning Show I watched on Sunday morning, they talked about gyroscopic stabilizer called a “Seakeeper”, if it’s not turned on, your boat becomes unstable and begins to rock.

Faith is what keeps the boat from rocking when a huge wave comes crashing in. Faith is the stabilizer and Intuition is like the anchor that you throw in the deep dark sea when you are in the middle of the ocean to keep you fasten and attached to your Faith. 

When you find you are surrounded by the sea and you have fear coursing through your veins. You want to reach for Faith.  It is what keeps us vigilant and protected from any unknown sea creatures that could emerge from the ocean.

Intuition lets us know if there is something pending, or if we have to work something out or just to let us know that God/Universal forces have our back, etc.   There are numerous glorious reasons to have Faith and follow your Intuition.

Faith and Intuition go hand in hand when you surround yourself with Faith and let Intuition be your guide.  Faith is like being the Captain of your ship and Intuition is your compass. 

Faith is your lighthouse that is solidly built onshore that emits illuminating light through the fog and Intuition allows you to be guided home. 

by Joann DJ Ehlman, Intuitive Life Coach,

Intuitive Reiki Master,

Author & Speaker


“Como Coco.” Two simple words. A Puerto Rican expression for saying you’re strong and robust.

Just Good News Here!


           Have you every noticed something that catches your attention and it makes sense to you, but you catch yourself looking around to see if anyone has noticed it too? 

          Have you ever seen the same three digit numbers such as 4:44, 1:23, or 1:11 ; or four digit numbers such as 12:12, 11:11, or 12:34.  You glance over to the clock, look at your cell phone or look over at a license plate? You see the same number over and over again. Have you ever been told something just at the right time? Have you ever just seen something that just made sense to you but, no one else?

           The first thoughts that I had years ago when I kept seeing the same numbers over and over again was I think I am losing my mind.  I would sometimes talk out-loud. I would say, “What the heck is going on?.” Another day it happened again. I would say, “I must be looking at the darn clock a lot.”

So, here is the Good News, are you ready to hear it?… 


You are not just seeing things and you are not alone. 

Signs are everywhere. Especially if you are like me, I am a Intuitive/Empath and lean on

my faith, which has guided me through my life thus far. Those numbers that I saw repeatedly 

are called Angel numbers, but I’m not here to talk about the Angel numbers I am here to talk 

about, signs.

What I found charming since I moved back to North Carolina is that I noticed more 

personalized licensed plates, and not just numbers on the license plates.The personalized license

plates I have seen in North Carolina are phrases that read “PEEKHEN” (Peak Hen), 

“HWLFMLY” (Whole Family), “CUPCAKE”, “LADYBMOR” (Lady be more) etc. Which I 

find very clever and interesting to read when I’m driving through town.

Let me share my story and I am only sharing GOOD NEWS. 

 It was difficult moving back to North Carolina from Nashville, T.N.. Even though I never

wanted to leave North Carolina in the first place. When I moved back to North Carolina it was

challenging to keep my spirits up.  Being that I am an Empath, I could feel all the emotions my 

family were feeling and let me tell you it was heavy.  Feeling all the low emotional vibrations just 

was so burdensome. The heavy weight on my shoulders very heavy.  

Despite all the tools that I learned to keep me centered, grounded and protected. I was struggling with my self-care.  I was

being consumed by the lower thoughts of mine as well as my  family’s. My spirit was being challenged and my inner strength

was fluctuating while trying to hold my family together. I felt I was falling apart most of the time.

So, let me share with you some Good News!  

Signs,  that I have gotten since I moved back to North Carolina that lifted my spirits up just at 

the right time.  When I saw “LVYOU” on someone license plate in front of me while I sat in the

carpool lane waiting to pick my daughter up.  It was just at the right time that I needed to see 

those words to be comforted. Another time I was feeling down while driving my car on the 

highway when a car pulls in front of me, it caught my attention.  I noticed the license plate right 

away, it read “PUTTABOY”. I will not translate it in Spanish, but it got my attention and 

it made me laugh, which lifted my spirits.  My intuition knew it was my mother in spirit trying to

make me laugh to raise my vibration. 

Another time I was praying in the car and asking my angels to give me a sign that 

they are with me and guiding me.  When I stopped in front of car that it’s license plate read 

“ACHANL4UC” (Archangel for you see). I was so thankful that I was shown that they were

and for that message then I  saw “WNDRWAMN” (Wonder Women) on someones licenses

plate.  I then realized what fantastic way to be uplifted by God, Spirit, my Guardian Angels, and 

loved ones who are in spirit.

 So, have you ever noticed Signs or numbers or what one might call coincidence? 

If you have received signs,  lean in and listen carefully. What I’m about to share with you is

Just Good News. 

Signs let you know we are being guided.  It is exhilarating when it happens!

You see what most people call coincidence, because they can not be explained and then doubt

what they witnessed. 

Please read carefully, it happens for a reason

Sometimes we cannot explain to someone else, but we know what we are being told.

When we tap into our intuition and we ask for guidance we are pleasantly surprised on how we

can be guided when we have unwavering faith. 

Signs are everywhere and I love to spread that there is only,  Good News Here.


by Joann DJ Ehlman, Intuitive life Coach, Author & Speaker

 “Como Coco.” Two simple words. A Puerto Rican expression for saying you are strong and robust.” 


Como Coco and Como Coco Rancio (bitter and sweet) all wrapped up, in my life moments.

When I was in high school and found out I got the role of Glenda, the good witch, in the Wizard of OZ; I was thrilled to have the opportunity to have a lead role. What an incredible Como Coco moment; however, my mother didn’t come out to see me perform because of her religious beliefs. She felt (or the church felt) it was worldly, not a religious event so she wasn’t allowed to attend. It was a sour moment for me…a Como Coco Rancio moment; however, I had my oldest sister come to see me perform along with her daughters… a Como Coco moment.

I was nominated homecoming queen… a Como Coco moment. I didn’t tell my mother that I was nominated because I was bitter that she didn’t show up for any other school event…many Como Coco Rancio moments. I finally told my mother that I was nominated for homecoming queen. She did show up at the corner of the street to wave at me, while I rode by in the limo… a sweet moment, a Como Coco moment. I also won Homecoming Queen… another Como Coco moment.

I went into preterm labor and ended up in bed rest with my first child. That was a difficult time for me because I didn’t know if my baby girl would make it. It was a Como Coco Rancio time for me. I had it in my head I would be healthy. The baby would be healthy. I would be active. I would continue at my job working at the bank. I’d continue working out at the gym all the way to the very end of my pregnancy. I struggled many times to keep my spirits up. I had many sorrowful moments thinking about the outcome. All those thoughts came tumbling down until I gave birth to a beautiful healthy baby girl… a wonderful Como Coco moment.

I’ve recently been awakened to something traumatic that happened to me when I was a baby. I have a lot of bitter sweet moments in my life, but I try to hang onto all the Como Coco moments in life. Don’t get me wrong, some of my Como Coco Rancio moments were and still can be very challenging when I think about what happened to me. I still think about it now and again and I have emotional wounds that I’ve had to release in order to heal. I’ve released a lot of pent-up, harmful emotions just recently. I still have them bubble up now and again. With my faith, I’ve gained strength. I’ve gained wisdom on how to heal myself.

Embrace whatever tools you have to help you through the emotional and physical pain. Do what you love doing! I do Zumba because I love it. I meditate when I can. I practice yoga when I can. I pray often and write often in my journal. I try to eat well. I use all the positive tools available to me to help me. Once again I want to stress, use positive tools that are available to you to get you the through the tough emotional pain. Sing in your car loudly when you’re driving alone. Dance in your kitchen by yourself or with a loved one. Go for a walk. Take a hike. Talk to a good friend or a trusted family member that will support you. Hug your children and your grandchildren. Play with your pet or pets. Listen to music you love. Soak a warm bath with sea salts or Epsom salt. See a Holistic Counselor. Get a massage. Visit a Chiropractor. Receive Acupuncture. Receive Reiki. Get a mani or pedi or both. See an Energy Healer. Use all the healthy tools to help you release the emotional pain that’s pinned up inside. 

Life is constantly changing. I’ve grown and I’ve learned so much, even after I published Como Coco-The Journey. I’m currently working on the next book subtitled Spiritual Discovery. I can’t wait to share my newer experiences with you soon. Until then I leave you with: 

Embrace all the precious memories. All the good that has happened in your life. Give thanks every day. Count your blessing every day. When I count my blessing.  My life is Como Coco.